Sunday, December 26, 2010

Am I really in Love?

Have you ever asked yourself: “Do I really love him/her?”

Turns out there are a lot of ways to check it. If you try to find something on Internet, you can see that there are a lot of tests and quizzes, which are  supposed to help you to get your answers. You may also find articles which describe step by step how to figure out whether you are in love or not.  But do you think they can be helpful?
Love is something very individual. There aren’t any common rules for all the couples.

People say: “If you really love somebody, you want them to be happy, no matter where and no matter with whom”
I personally don’t agree with this. When you love someone, you want them to be nowhere else but right next to you. You can call it selfishness, jealousy, stupidity, call it whatever you want, but it is like that. When you love that person, you simply can’t imagine your life without him/her, and there’s nothing more difficult than to see your loved one with someone else.

I’ve been criticizing since I started writing this post and you might ask me what’s my opinion about this.
I think that when it comes to real love, not lust (a sexual desire) or infatuation (when you are "crazy" about them, but this feeling usually fades over time) you are more than sure that it is true.

When you really love someone you never ask yourself: “Do I really love him/her?”
It's as simple and as difficult as that.